Climbing Out of the Hole

Melancholy Street Art - Photograph by mio_pls on Flickr

Photograph by mio_pls on Flickr

It’s as cyclical as the seasons, my interest in doing everything I can to promote my work. Right up until May, I was hustling; creating work, hitting my social networks hard, blogging like mad and many other things to make sure I was getting the word out about my art right up until the Patchwork shows in May.

Without rehashing too much, the shows were a bit of a bust for me. I spent way more money to be there than I made, and if you count all the time and energy to participate, I’m WAY into the red. I know other artists that sell somewhat similar types of products did much better, for whatever reason. My initial instinct is to try and adjust my business model to match the customer, so I experimented with a different type of product, but have had limited success.

In June, I applied to be part of a much bigger show hoping to tap into a different demographic. I didn’t get in. I also applied to be part of Heartsy.com, a group coupon type site specifically for arts and crafts. I didn’t make the cut there either. Combine all that with a desperate need to bring in more revenue, and deep seeded amount of animosity that comes out around Father’s Day each year (a story for another time), and I was headed for a pretty heavy tailspin. I checked out mentally for a little bit. I put in some marginal effort, but didn’t really focus on anything.

The best thing that happened to was my anniversary to my lovely wife. We’re so tight on cash, instead of buying her a gift, I created her a piece of art, which she loves and appreciates more than any piece of jewelry I could buy her. The pieces I had done just prior to that were fun, but nothing that really got me excited. Creating her piece put me in a different mindset, and when I was done, got my creative juices flowing again.

Unfortunately, day job got in the way again as it tends to do on a monthly basis, being a magazine, so I couldn’t capitalize on it as much as I wanted. The July 4th holiday weekend came and all I really wanted at that point was to decompress. I didn’t work on my art at all. Instead, I spent a ton of quality time with my wife and my son, and I didn’t beat myself up about not working on anything.

Now I’m posting up here, I’m checking Facebook and Twitter more, I’m considering new art pieces and things are slowly working their way back to normal. Maybe I’m not doing the art shows, and maybe I’m not getting the promotion I was hoping to from other sites, but I’m enjoying my time right now, and really, that’s why I do the art in the first place, right? I love when people buy my work, but ultimately, I need to be creating for myself and then sharing the best with you.

 

Seven Years, Each One Better Than the Last

The best a man can get - My wife, Leslie ConreySeven years ago today, while standing on a beach in Maui amongst the closest of friends and family, I made the best decision of my entire life—I said, “I Do”, to the most amazing woman ever.

Although there are no perfect matches in this world, I think I scored pretty high on the perfect list. She contrasts and compliments me in all the right ways and we make a great team. There are very few discussions about how we should approach things in life because we tend to think the same way about things and almost always are in sync.

Leslie Mieko Conrey, I love you and always will. Thank you for being my saving grace. I don’t care what anyone says, I have the best family ever!

 

Moms: I Got ‘Em

I would not have him…

If not for her…

And I mean that far beyond the physical aspect of needing a woman to create life. The life she provides for me, for Aidan, I could not achieve on my own. I am more appreciative of her love and devotion to our family with each passing day. Happy Mother’s Day to my wife.

Also, I could not be the father, the husband, the man I am if it wasn’t for…

My Mother—Happy Mother's Day, Mom.

It’s entirely fair to say that I never fully appreciated my mother until I became a parent myself. She put up with a lot of crap from me over the years, still does on occasion, but I’m trying my best to show her I can be a better father to my boy than my father was to me. If I can do that, I’m sure she’ll feel her mission was accomplished. Thanks for everything, Mom.

Big love and thanks out to both of the main women in my life. I couldn’t do it without you.

The Power of Family

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The 'Dubs' Family

I lost my job a few weeks ago. Well, I guess it’s been about a month now. The time sure does fly.

Nothing short of a miracle, I found a new and even better job that I begin next week. I was laying in bed with the Hubs just a bit ago, before I remembered that I was supposed to write this post (sorry Dave) and was reminded of the power of family. We were discussing the amazing outreach of love and support that literally flew our, well, my way during ‘the event’. It was amazing to see and feel the love from so many people. I had people write me Facebook messages, send me emails, call me up on the phone and shoot me text messages. I heard who knows how many ‘let me tell you about my story’ stories, and I have to tell you that I’m grateful for each and everyone of them. It was great to hear a friendly voice and be reminded that I’m not the only one to have gone through rough times. If ‘the event’ has done only one thing it has tough me the importance of having a family.

A lovely hug

Hugs

I had neighbors checking in on me, telling me they were thinking about me and keeping me in their prayers. I even had a friend call up her family prayer chain and initiate it just for me. I had meals made, dishes done and the house cleaned a few times too. Which was unbelievably helpful! I tell ya, when you’re trying to pull yourself up off the floor the last thing you’re thinking about is the state of your home.

The point is, no matter how big or small, we need it all. We need the love, the touch, the smile, the thought, the wave, the laugh, the hug. We need each other more than we will ever know. I hope that everyone has a family out there, be it a few great friends that you know will be your shoulder to cry on, or one amazing sibling who’ll clean your house for you when it’s the last thing you can think about.

Have a spectacular week everyone, and remember to smile at someone. You never know who’ll really need it.

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K & Q. Just smiling.

Kelly Westover is a designer of things, crafter of words, scouter of stylish threads and a super mom on top of all that. You can find her work on Etsy and words on her Balance Blog.

Treading Through Personal Tragedy, Trying to Find Light in The Tunnel

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My family became a statistic this past Friday; my wife was let go from her job without notice. I won’t go into the details for her sake, but there’s no getting around it, this is a major shock to the system.

As you can imagine, and some of you may have felt first hand, there are few feelings worse than being rejected based on your performance, especially when you really didn’t do anything wrong, but the company needs a sacrificial lamb. She was devastated and since it happened, my main job has been to lift her up every time she throws herself down the pit of despair. I’m happy to be there to carry the load for her when I can.

Obviously, there are not a lot of good things that come out of this kind of personal tragedy. No two ways about it, it sucks. I haven’t really been able to concentrate on my own stuff that much because 1. there’s a lot of loose ends to tie up, 2. she needs me, 3. It’s hard to stay motivated when you can’t stop thinking about how you’re going to pay the mortgage.

Get Back On Your Horse by Tiffany Michelle

In all of this, what it has caused me to realize is that I need to take control of my own destiny, making more stuff happen for myself so that we are not in this position any longer than we need to be. I have no illusions about my art and design being able to magically make up the difference between what she used to make and what unemployment insurance will cover. That is a HUGE gap, and sacrifices will need to be made, but there is also an opportunity present for both of us. For her, it’s finding an even better job than the previous one (which is not a huge leap since the other place pretty much sucked ass). For me, it’s taking the leap into finding other places for me to sell my work.

There’s something more to come on that note, but you’ll have to wait for the update later. Until then, thanks to everyone for all their support and well wishes. You make the hard times a little bit softer.